Saturday, February 10, 2018

The Turpin Family Abuse is NOT Representative of Most Homeschool Families








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Hello Friends,
  I have some things on my heart to share in light of recent news headlines featuring the Turpin Family "House of Torture" stories. Sadly many are using this horrendous story to try to clamp down on homeschoolers and create laws to hinder the home education freedoms we have enjoyed over the past many years.
  I have a lot of thoughts concerning all of this, but my first point is to state that this creepy story is NOT representative of most homeschool families!  I have been involved in homeschooling for almost forty years both as a homeschool student and now as a homeschooling Mama to seven.  I know that most homeschooling parents are making great sacrifices to home educate their students and truly have the best interest of each of their children in mind.
  Last year I published a book titled Legacy Reflections of a Homeschooled, Homeschooling Mama, and one of my objectives was to state how grateful I am for the legacy of faith my parents gave to me through the means of home education.  In addition, I am seeking to share the many blessings I received through home education.  I truly believe that the Lord used my time growing up in the classroom of my home to shape me for His kingdom purposes.


  Yes, there are always those rare, exceptions to the rule, but I really want to make clear that this Turpin family case is a rare tragedy and not the norm in the homeschooling movement.
  Back in the eighties my family was among many others who fought for homeschool freedoms.  I remember the day my family traveled to Austin, TX to stand with a huge number of homeschool families who were there to state that they wanted freedoms to home educate their children without government interference.  By God's grace great freedoms were won in Texas, however, those freedoms are now at risk again.  As you probably know, there are liberal activists who are using this Turpin family case to try to motivate government to clamp down on our homeschool liberties.  Dear parents, now is the time to stand up, be aware of what is happening, do your part, and fight for the preservation of the established freedoms we have enjoyed for many years.  Freedom always comes with a price, and I cannot state it enough that the homeschool freedoms we now enjoy are at risk.  We must not be apathetic here.  If we sit back and let these activists have a field day with this Turpin case then we are at risk of being subjected to physical checks/examinations of our children, home inspections, and overall the government being too involved in our business.
  I am certain that most of you reading this know the headlines about the Turpin case, but I am going to do a re-cap here unless anyone has missed any of these details.  Earlier in January thirteen children/adult children were found in a California home having been subjected to years of torture and abuse.  The family "homeschooled" which is why there is a movement of people trying to create new laws that will threaten homeschool freedoms.  According to the Washington Post,  A neighbor was surprised to meet a Turpin son, a man in his mid twenties, who she said looked fifteen."  These Turpin young adults and children were severely malnourished and a twenty-nine year old daughter/victim only weighed eighty-nine pounds.  TIME magazine described the Turpin home as a "Torture Chamber."  Also, "Authorities said the children, for reasons still unclear, were starved for years and held capture in a dirty, smelly house in Parris, CA.  If they misbehaved, they were tied to their beds as punishment - first a rope and later chains and padlocks - and were kept from using the bathroom."
According to the LA Times the children had been "Neglected for years in ways so extreme that the siblings are severely malnourished and some show signs of cognitive impairment and nerve damage."
The children were found earlier in January and are now be evaluated and treated while their parents, "Have been barred from contacting the children for the next three years, including by phone or electronically.  They are prohibited from being within one hundred yards away from their children and are being held on a twelve million dollar bail."

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  One thing the children were allowed to do in their captivity was to write in journals, and so investigators are going through their journals to try to find out what was going on behind the walls of the Turpin home.  On and on the stories go, and likely more is still to be revealed.
  This is just sick!  This is not homeschooling.  I make my point again that this is NOT representative of most homeschool families.  This is not home-education in any way, shape or form.  This is abuse, this is criminal activity, this is anything but home education.
  Because of this morbid story there are an astounding number of articles all over the internet stating that tougher laws, requirements, and inspections should be required for people to homeschool their children.  One such article I found is from the News Republic.  The name of the article is, "The Turpins Won't Be the Last, How Lax Homeschooling Laws Protect Child Abusers."  Without taking the time to go deep into the article, the point of it is that lax homeschool laws enable abusive parents.
  Now I just want to stop right there and ask what about all the abusive parents who send their children to state schools everyday?  If you do a statistical study you will find that FAR more students are abused in state school homes than in private homeschools.  For that matter there are also stories of kids being abused in christian, private schools.  Abuse is going to be found in every kind of school, every kind of home, every kind of church, and every kind of religious persuasion.  It is important, however, to look at statistics and realize that most homeschools are not abusive!  Also, a correlation does not mean a causation.  Yes, there was a correlation to "homeschooling" in this Turpin family case but not a causation.  I believe had David and Louise Turpin sent their children to government schools then there would have been abuse going on at home in the evenings.  The problem here is not home education or the lack thereof but rather a case of abusive parenting.  This is a parenting issue not a homeschool issue!
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  Going back to my own upbringing, as a homeschool student, I NEVER knew any homeschool families where anything like this was going on.  You want to know something else?  Almost forty years later I still do not know any homeschool families abusing their children.  I have known many, many homeschool families over the span of almost four decades, and never once have I ever heard that any of these families were abusive to their children.  Again, I encourage you to think about the fact that abuse happens far more frequently in families who send their children to state schools.  What about all the children in the slums who are living with drug and alcohol addicted parents?  What do you think their home life is like?  So are we also going to send CPS workers to do yearly investigations in all the homes of children attending public schools?
  In addition, what about families who hold to different religious beliefs and the fathers who have been known to torture young adults who have left the family's religion and converted to Christianity?  To be self-consistent do we need to send CPS inspectors to do home checks in every home that holds to those beliefs?
  What about the fact that there have been some children abused in churches?  Do we now need to have CPS get involved in annual inspections inside every church?  What about the stories of priests in the Catholic church abusing children?  Need CPS do regular investigations in every Catholic Church?
   Furthermore, what about the recent stories coming out about the gymnastics coach in Michigan who has abused many, many girls through the years?  Do we now invite CPS to make regular visits and subject every teacher and coach to investigations?  Do we want to live in police states where the state has totalitarian control over every aspect of our lives?

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  My point here is that we cannot just single out the homeschooling community because of one tragic case and punish all home educating parents, cracking down on their freedoms, inviting CPS into every homeschool home for physical and emotional checks on the children, and who knows what else?  This is not at all fair and could really threaten our rights to home educate our children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.  Would you feel comfortable with a CPS investigator knocking on your door and asking to interview each of your children while "looking for a problem in your home?"  Some of these investigators would be out to "find' a problem even if no problem exists.  What about if your house just doesn't happen to be quite squeaky clean "enough" that particular day? Again, the answer is NOT to punish and regulate all homeschool families because of a rare case of abuse.  The answer IS to rightly punish the offenders and bring them to justice.  Now is the time for Christian, homeschooling parents to be vigilant, prayerful, discerning, and active to speak up for freedom.
  Matt Walsh chimed in on this with some good things to say, "The treatment suffered by the Turpin children is horrendous and depraved, but it is an anomaly among home educators.  It's not as though thousands upon thousands of homeschool parents have their starving, unwashed kids chained to a bedpost.  On the other hand, the sexual abuse problem in public school is a verified national crisis - 100 times worse according to life site news, than it ever was in the Catholic Church." Walsh goes on to point out that, "Public schools can also often be nests of drug and gang activity, with 27% of public school kids attending schools that are gang and drug infected."  He nailed it when he said, "There is not any evidence that homeschool is more dangerous for a child than public school.  There is an overwhelming amount of evidence that the opposite is the case.  So, instead of asking the government to take charge of our families, perhaps we should ask it to take charge of its own affairs.  To this point, it has not shown itself capable of doing even that much."
  A couple of years ago a helpful study was done called the Gen2 Survey that looked at and did statistical  comparisons on millennials who were homeschooled, attended Christian school, and those who were educated in state schools. This study did statistical studies comparing these three groups, and in the category of how likely to be abused, the break down turned out that sixteen percent reported abuse from public school, fifteen percent from private, Christian schools, and only six percent reported abuse from homeschools.  You can see that statistically abuse is much lower in homeschool settings.  This makes good sense when you consider that when parents decides to home educate their children they are choosing to make many sacrifices to carry out this plan.  Most parents who don't care would never choose home education.  Typically home educating parents are intentional, loving, dedicated, and willing to make many sacrifices so that their children can be taught at home.  This is NOT to say that parents who choose other paths do not love their children; I am not saying that at all.  What I am saying is that the norm is that homeschooling parents are choosing a path that requires great sacrifice and that they care very much about the needs their children.  Yes, there are always the exceptions to the norm (The Turpins) but this is a bizarre exception.  All homeschool families should not be subjected to home checks, medical checks, and more because of a crazy exception.


  Now going back to the history of homeschooling, and the pioneering parents who have already fought the brave fight for freedom, I want to point out the good work of HSLDA throughout the years.  Here is a write up I found about the purpose and history of the Home School Legal Defense Association.  "HSLDA was founded by Michael Farris in 1983 for the purpose of defending homeschooling families.  At the time, homeschooling was not specifically legal in most of the states of the U.S. under compulsory education laws.  Those who practiced homeschooling were often harassed or prosecuted.  Through a combination of legal action and legislative lobbying, HSLDA played a large part in the legalization of homeschooling throughout the U.S.
  Homeschool liberty is dear to my heart, because my family was one of the families who fought to secure the freedoms we now enjoy.  I encourage you to look into HSLDA https://hslda.org and also to look at Heritage Defense which we use as a legal protection for our homeschool.  http://www.heritagedefense.org
   At this point I just want to close the post with going back to the why and the vision of home education.  Here is a quote that I love from my book.  It succinctly summarizes much of what I feel I received through the home discipleship/home education model my parents chose for my upbringing.  I am thankful for my legacy and the freedom I have had thus far to carry on this legacy with my own seven children.


  Here is a snippet from a chapter in my book that I want to share with you: "I am furthermore grateful that I have the freedom to educate my own children at home where we are learning that history is His Story, that Science proclaims the works of a wonderful Creator, that music is a way we can glorify our Lord, that reading enables us to read the very words of God, and so forth.  In all of our studies, we are trying to paint a picture of divine providence and the sovereignty of God.  We are trying to instill a Biblical worldview so that our children can see all of life through the lens of God, His word, and His ways."  
  Lastly, THSC has been on the alert working for homeschool freedoms for Texans for many years.  I have been hearing that they are seeking to mobilize homeschooling families to be prepared to fight the battle should it begin to rage.  Right now they are seeking to inform families of how they can be proactive and do their part to preserve the freedoms my parents and many others fought to obtain.  Here is a link to look at how THSC is proceeding: https://www.thsc.org/events/operation-mobilize/
  In closing, let me remind us again that freedom comes at a cost and it is worth preserving.  May we proceed ahead with watchfulness, prayer, and great vision for the future.  


  




Sunday, February 4, 2018

Legacy Homeschool Reflections Podcast 6: Family discipleship with my husband Matt

Excited to be a part of The Homeschool Fitting-It-All-In Online Summit.  Register for free here.  I will be speaking on Day 6.  Thank you for listening. ~Ruth L. Adams

I am excited to have my husband, Matt, join me to discuss our journey in family discipleship together.
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Saturday, February 3, 2018

Bringing More of God's Word into Our Homes


                                   
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This week I would like to share about an essential I feel we must not ignore in our Christian homes.This essential is a steady intake of the Word of God.  Because I homeschool my children, I am with them all day and have the privilege of taking them before the throne of grace and into God's Word multiple times a day.  My desire is that our home be a discipleship center where we are living and breathing a genuine walk with Christ all throughout the day and night.  

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Through the years I have felt like the Lord has been showing me that even our academics can often be taught from the context of Biblical truth.  As I have prayed about various homeschool curriculum decisions, I have sensed that the Lord has been asking me to bring more and more of His Word into the flow of our day and educational experience.  

  We never want our children to come to see the Bible as just a quaint, antiquarian book of stories.  No, we want them to know it is God's very words to them-their guidebook for life.  It is the eternal, inspired, infallible Word of God.  

"The law of the Lord is perfect, reviving the soul; the testimony of the Lord is sure, making wise the simple; the precepts of the Lord are right, rejoicing the heart; the commandment of the Lord is pure, enlightening the eyes; the fear of the Lord is clean, enduring forever; the rules of the Lord are true, and righteous altogether.  More to be desired are they than gold, even much fine gold; sweeter also than honey and drippings of the honeycomb.  Moreover, by them is your servant warned in keeping them there is great reward" (Psalm 19:7-11).

From Genesis to Revelation the gospel story of God's love and redemption runs through every chapter.  A Bible story should not primarily be about Moses, Noah, or David.  It should be about the mighty God who did great things in and through the lives of such men.  This sovereign God is in control of all history from beginning to end.  He is working His eternal plan from the fall in the garden to the glorious redemption we eagerly await.  The Bible is a narrative that tells us the gospel story of Creation, Fall, Redemption, and Restoration.  This is the most beautiful thing of all for us to teach our children.  The prince of preacher, Charles Spurgeon, put it like this:

"This great book, the Bible, this most precious volume is the heart of God made legible; it is the gold of God's love, beaten out into gold leaf, so that therewith our thoughts might be plated, and we also might have golden, good and holy thoughts concerning Him."  - Charles Spurgeon

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 As Christian families I believe that God's Word should be elevated to a place of prominence in our homes.  Whenever there is question as to a decision to be made or as to what is right or wrong, the Bible should be our guide.  We would do well to not just tell our children what to do but to take them straight to the source of all truth.  I do not want my children to derive their code of ethics based on what Mama believes.  That may work when they are young, but the day will come when they will become more independent thinkers.  If I have taught them from the onset what the Bible says rather than what Mama thinks, then they will have a foundation that is built upon the authoritative Word of God rather than their mama's ideas.  

  Whenever there is a question as to a decision to be made or as to what is right or wrong, the Bible should be our guide.  We would do well to not just tell our children what to do but to take them straight to the source of all truth.  The bible is the best plumb line and the best true north.  It is a light for our path.  
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  Now to be practical, here are some specific ways we are trying to incorporate more of God's Word into our daily lives:

*Talking about the Word in everyday conversations
*Helping our children memorize the Word
*Scripture songs put to music
*Listening to the Word on a Bible App (This one is for me so that I am intaking more of the Word, but sometimes my children come into the room and also here bits of it.)
*Family Bible Time
*Circle Time (This is when I gather the children in the family room, in the mornings, and share God's Word with them.)
*Using Biblically based homeschool curriculum
*Taking Them to Church to hear the Word of God preached
*Choosing excellent reading materials for our family library that tell stories of virtue and truth and refer to God's Word and His ways.  

  These are just some of the ways that we are trying to be intentional about keeping God's Word front and center in the atmosphere of our home.  What are some ways you are finding to be effective in bringing the Word of God before your children?  I would love to hear your ideas!  


Sunday, January 28, 2018

Legacy Homeschool Reflections Podcast 5: Keeping the main thing the main thing

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Keeping the main thing the main thing; the importance of discipleship.
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Saturday, January 27, 2018

Fighting Narcissism by Teaching our Children to Serve



  I would like to start this blog post with a quote by Andrew Murray.

"God's purpose is that the Holy Spirit should take possession of our sons and daughters, filling them for His service."  

  As parent's, in today's culture, we are trying to bring up young people in a generation where narcissism  and self-absorption is the norm.  So many young people today have been brought up being taught by the culture that they need to believe in themselves, follow their hearts, and achieve all their dreams.  This mindset creates a love of self in young people and leads them to believe that their every whim and desire should be met by others.  We are living in the selfie generation after all.  The book of Second Timothy puts it this way:

"For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy."
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  I strongly believe that one way to combat this focus on self is to get busy serving others.  I want my children to grow up to be kingdom-minded rather than to be self-absorbed.  My husband and I are trying very hard to pass on this vision to our children.  It is one thing to tell them they need to impact the world for Christ, but it is another thing to get them busy getting their hands dirty and let them experience the joy of serving others.  Honestly we have a long ways to go in this but we are working at it.  
  This week I drove across town with a van full of children in order to take them through the Compassion International Experience where they could walk through and hear stories of children in other countries who are fighting for survival.  https://cts.compassion.com/events/ The experience is sort of like going to a mission field and being met face to face with the needs in poverty stricken places.  My prayer is that our walk through helped grow a greater compassion and awareness in them for the needs of others on foreign soil.  My prayer is that, as a family, our hearts will break over the things that break the heart of our Father God.  





  There is great joy and fulfillment when young people see something bigger than themselves and realize that they are part of God's greater plan for furthering His kingdom.  Last weekend my husband took my son to help with a roofing project at a home of a widow in our church.  It was encouraging to see my son's enthusiasm and excitement about being part of the team of men and young men serving on a Saturday morning.  
My son's comment to his dad is that he felt like this is what a church family should be like; serving and working to bless those in the body.  
  A couple of years ago my husband and children went and spent time helping a local crisis pregnancy center with some cleaning.  That was another opportunity to show them the blessing of serving for a cause greater than their own interests.  My husband and I are talking about our desire to see our children doing more and more of these sorts of things as they grow older.  Here are a few practical ideas for ways to get involved in kingdom work:


* Participate in Operation Christmas Child later in the year https://www.samaritanspurse.org/operation-christmas-child/pack-a-shoe-box/#

There are other organizations where you can sponsor a child; Compassion is just one that I am aware of.  

* Get involve with Joni and Friends in ministry to the disabled http://joniandfriends.org  

* Show the gift of appreciation by taking cookies to local servants of the community such as police, post office, etc.  Also, have an appreciation gift for the UPS driver and mail deliver who delivers mail/packages to your home.  

* Hopefully your church has mission/outreach opportunities where your family can serve others whether it be at home or abroad.  Ministry in the church is always a great way of getting our families serving the Lord together as a family.  

* If you have an older daughter perhaps she could consider starting a discipleship group to young girls.  My daughter is co-leading a Bright Lights group with a friend at our church.  They have a good group of younger girls they are seeking to encourage towards a growing walk with Jesus.  http://www.brothersandsisters.net/index.php?Itemid=54

* If you have older and younger children you have a built in opportunity for the older ones to develop a servant's heart by loving and helping with their younger siblings.  This is one of the sweetest and most beautiful blessings in a large family!




This certainly is not an exhaustive list of ideas, but hopefully it motivates you to think of ways you can encourage your children/young people to be busy serving the Lord in their youth.


"Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity."  - I Timothy 4:12

I started this post with an Andrew Murray quote, and I think I will close it out with another one.  May the Lord give us Mamas creativity in how we can cast vision to our sons and daughters to love and serve others with with kingdom-minded vision.  

"If there were a wholehearted surrender to God’s service and work, the Spirit would come without being sought. The measure of the Spirit will be given according to the work we undertake and what our faith expects to perform." 
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Monday, January 22, 2018

Legacy Homeschool Reflections Podcast 4: Blessings gained from being homeschooled

Excited to be a part of The Homeschool Fitting-It-All-In Online Summit.  Register for free here.  I will be speaking on Day 6.  Thank you for listening. ~Ruth L. Adams

Blessings gained from being homeschooled.
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Friday, January 19, 2018

Keeping the Faith By God's Grace





  Recently I had the privilege of being interviewed on the Generations Radio program.  The interview was on the topic of keeping the faith by God's grace.  The conversation was about how God preserves the faith through multiple generations.  The radio host, Kevin Swanson, and I were both homeschooled back in the pioneer or vintage days of the homeschooling movement and were able to give testimony to how the Lord used our home education experiences to give us a kingdom-minded outlook on life.
  If you have ever had questions about homeschooling, what homeschool graduates think of their home education experience, family discipleship, what to do with hypocrisies in ministries, leaving a spiritual legacy to your children, prioritizing the demands and opportunities of life, and many other such topics then you might find this interview interesting.
  Kevin grew up a missionary kid (MK), and I grew up a preacher's kid (PK).  Both of us have seen our share of falling outs and hypocrisies in various ministries, and we discuss how a person can go through that and still hold fast to Christ.  Our hope must be solidly rooted in Christ alone!  As the old song goes,  "On Christ the solid rock I stand, all other ground is sinking sand!" Truly our hope is not in homeschooling, a church, a pastor, a conference speaker, a parenting method, or in anything else but in Christ alone.
  My experiences in the homeschooling movement span the space of almost four decades now.  A lot has changed since the early days of the modern homeschooling movement.  I praise God for the exponential growth in the movement and share from lessons I have learned along the way.
  Home education is not for the faint of heart, but it is such a worthy thing to pour our lives into for the glory of God. I like to think of our home as a discipleship center where we are seeking to point our children to the Lord in all we do and in all that we teach.  As we teach and train our children we also want to constantly be leading them in praise to our glorious Lord.  It is my prayer that I will be faithful today and that the Lord will bring fruit of that for generations to come.  Certainly the Lord is the only one who can save our children and lead them towards this vision of generational faithfulness. Now I will leave you with the link and pray it blesses and encourages your hearts.  https://www.generations.org/programs/846




Monday, January 15, 2018

Legacy Homeschool Reflections Podcast 3: When ministry leaders fall

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When ministry leaders fall.
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Saturday, January 13, 2018

Things That Strengthen Me in the Motherhood Journey

  Are any other Mamas out there feeling a little cabin fever as you dwell indoors with your children through the cold of the winter months?  I have noticed that winter presents my days with a unique challenge that we don't have for most of the year here in Texas.  This winter especially we have been cooped up indoors day after day with one round after another of illness in our family.  With seven children in the home it can start to feel like the walls are closing in on me even though we live in a large house.  So, I was thinking about what are some of the things that I do to refresh my own soul during the bleak days of winter.  Not all of these will be profound, but they are little things that help me through the long days and give me little joys and comforts.  
  I have found that when I am busy focusing on ministering to others that I am able to maintain a better perspective on what really matters.  As I study, write, podcast, etc. I am renewing my own mind as I try to offer encouragement to my readers and listeners.  When I go back and read my book I am reminded of kingdom priorities, and as I record podcasts it renews vision in my own heart for the things I am sharing.  One reason I love to write and speak is that it strengthens my heart as I seek to minister to others.  Maybe this is part of what the Scripture means when it says, "Give and it will be given to you."  - Luke 6:38 


 It is of paramount importance that I keep my soul fed spiritually through God's Word and substantial books that will stretch me to greater spiritual maturity.  I have a Bible App on my phone, and it has helped me to get more Scripture in on a daily basis.  I can listen as I get ready for the day, as I fold laundry, drive in the car, etc.  Last year I was able to go through the Bible one and a half times by listening instead of reading.  Reading is important as well, but this has been a neat way for me to get more Scripture in during this season of busy motherhood.  Along with my Bible I also love to have a good devotional book going.  Currently I am enjoying going through a classic called "Mornings and Evening" by Charles Spurgeon.  




   I LOVE listening to encouraging podcasts.  Sometimes these can be such a shot in the arm to encourage me along when I'm feeling battle weary.  Some you might want to check out are: 


There are many more, but that is a start on some that might be an encouragement to a busy mama needing to be refueled especially during these winter months.  :) 

  Another suggestion I have is to have some kind of Bible study going on with a friend who inspires you in the Lord.  For me that is currently a book study I am doing with a friend from out of state. We have a book we are reading through and then we email each other with our insights from each chapter.  This doesn't happen every week, as we are both busy Mamas, but we work with each other with a lot of flexibility. Whenever we have a lapse of time in our study we just pick up where we left off.  This interacting with my friend has been very fortifying and encouraging to my Mama heart.  


 I SO appreciate the gift my husband gave me this Christmas!  I am LOVING having this radio/cd player in the kitchen where I can play sacred music that puts a song in my heart as I go about the daily duties of keeping a home.  Somehow having God honoring music has a way of lifting heaviness of heart and putting a spring in my step as I do my chores.  I should have had this player years ago; I am just enjoying it so much!!!  


  Speaking of books, I also feel encouraged by good read alouds I do with my children during our morning circle time.  I often learn so much from the books we read together. We are currently reading through this gem of a book that teaches a strong lesson on the importance of forgiveness.  


  Church is certainly an important place for our batteries to be recharged as we take a day to slow down and focus on worship, fellowship with other believers, and sit under the teaching of God's Word.  I am thankful that we are given the grace of the body of Christ to strengthen us and that we  don't have to journey through life alone.  This is such an incredible blessing!  


  Mamas, I use Lilla Rose hair accessories on a daily basis.  My Flexi Clips are my favorites, and I usually twist my hair up and stick one in every morning.  Some days I just stick one into a pony tail, but either way I get my hair up off my face so that I can be busy and not worry with my hair.  I can take a Flexi and throw up my hair without even looking in the mirror.  It is as easy as sticking a plastic claw in but much more comfortable and certainly prettier.  If you want to learn more about  durable, flexible, comfortable Lilla Rose hair jewelry see my link on the sidebar.  My girls and I LOVE these accessories.  


  Now just a few more things I do to refresh my stamina on these busy days of motherhood; I try to drink a lot of water and add fresh mint leaves for a refreshing flavor.  I enjoy growing different flavors of mint with my favorites being Sweet Mint and Apple Mint.  Yummy!  
  I also diffuse essential oils next to my bed when I rest.  I LOVE Lavender; it is one of my favorites. Of course I am a believer in diffusing Thieves when fighting illness as well.  Lavender has a calming effect for me, and I also play calming sacred instrumental music next to my bed when I rest.  I will even let it play as I read at night and then turn it off as I go to sleep.  The calming effects of sacred music and essential oils help me relax and unwind.  Sometimes I can be wound up pretty tight from a stressful day, and it helps to end my day with sacred songs and reading an evening devotional before bed.  
  In the day I like to try to go out at least once or twice a day to breathe in fresh air.  My excuse to do this is often to take table scraps to our chickens.  They get all worked up when they see me coming, and it changes the pace for me and just feels good to see my ladies scampering about enjoying the scraps I feed them.  The sunshine and fresh air help lift my mood too.  
  Another thing that helps is to have a date night planned with my hubby.  Sometimes that is an in house date.  That would be where I go get some take out food and bring it home for us to eat after the children go to bed.  Other times we go out to a restaurant together.  Either way it is very important, in this crazy busy season of life, for us to have time to connect without constant interruptions.  It helps so much to have my hubby hear my heart and be able to talk through important decisions that are constantly rolling around in my head.  It is important to me that I work at keeping our marriage healthy, because one day this busy season of motherhood will be over, and I want to be left with a healthy marriage when it come back around to just the two of us.  
  I have found that knowing what I am going to prepare for dinner is so helpful!  It is a horrible feeling to get to the end of the day and not know what to make for dinner.  I have been in that situation one too many times, and so I always try to think ahead in the morning and make sure I know what our dinner will be.  I used to be a Crock Pot gal, but I have fallen in love with the Instant Pot which is a Crock Pot, Pressure Cooker, Rice Cooker, and so much more!  If you have not looked into it do yourself a big favor and check it out.  I LOVE filling mine with frozen chicken breasts and shredding up the chicken for tacos and then freezing the rest of the meat for another night's dinner.  It is so helpful!  
  My last thought for this post is just to mention that I do love having a cup of coffee first thing in the morning.  It helps motivate me to get up and moving, and after that I go to my mint flavored water.  I also enjoy drinking various herbal teas especially in the evenings.  
  Ladies, I know that the days can be long especially in the cold of winter but spring is on its way!!!   I look forward to throwing the windows open and allowing the children to run outside and get cooped up energy out.  Let's stay faithful persevering in the strength that only Jesus can supply.  Let's stay closely connected to the vine knowing that Jesus said, "Apart from me you can do nothing." - John 15:5  Let's be Word saturated, prayed up Mamas and remember to take care of ourselves by getting fresh air, rest, plenty of water, and feeding our souls with God's Word.  I hope some of these ideas are encouraging. We're in this together persevering for the glory of our Lord and Savior.  May those who come behind us find us faithful.  
  









Monday, January 8, 2018

Legacy Homeschool Reflections Podcast 2: Character training, 1 John 5:2-4

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Character training: 1 John 5:2-4.
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